How to Stop Forgetting to Pay Bills (Even If You’ve Tried Everything) | Ep 110 Debt Rebel Show

If you keep forgetting to pay bills, it’s not because you’re irresponsible—it’s because your system isn’t working.

The fix isn’t trying harder or setting more reminders. It’s building a system that pays your bills for you.

Here’s the shift: When your bills are automated and aligned with your income, you stop relying on memory—and start relying on a system that actually works.

Late fees cost U.S. households billions each year, and most of them are completely avoidable with the right setup.

Why You Keep Forgetting to Pay Bills

Let’s be honest—no one wakes up thinking:

“Today feels like a great day to forget a bill.”

Life just… happens.

You’ve got kids, work, schedules, a million tabs open in your brain—and somewhere in there is a due date that quietly slips by.

If you have ADHD, this gets even trickier.

• Time blindness makes weeks disappear

• Executive dysfunction makes tasks feel heavier than they are

• Memory becomes unreliable

So if you’re relying on “remembering” to pay your bills?

That system is already broken.

My Wake-Up Call With Systems (Not Willpower)

There was a time when managing money felt like constant mental juggling.

Not because I didn’t know what to do—but because I didn’t have a system that supported me.

And here’s what changed everything:

I stopped relying on myself to remember—and started building a system that didn’t need me to.

That’s when things got easier.

Not perfect. Just… easier.

Why Reminders Alone Don’t Work

You’ve probably tried this:

• Phone reminders

• Sticky notes

• Calendar alerts

And yet… bills still slip through.

Here’s why:

Reminders still rely on you to take action in the moment.

And when your brain is already overloaded?

That reminder becomes just another notification you swipe away.

The Real Solution: A Simple Bill Pay System

If you want to stop forgetting to pay bills, you need to remove memory from the equation.

That’s where automation comes in.

And no—automation is not a crutch.

It’s a support tool.

Step 1: Automate Your Essential Bills

Start with the bills that keep your life running:

• Rent or mortgage

• Utilities (power, water, etc.)

Set these up on autopay so they’re handled no matter what.

Because let’s be real—you don’t want to play games with keeping the lights on.

Step 2: Use Your Bank’s Bill Pay (Not Each Provider)

This is where most people overcomplicate things.

Instead of setting up autopay with every single company…

Use your bank’s bill pay system.

Why?

• One login

• One place to manage everything

• Easier to adjust or stop payments

Less chaos. More control.

Step 3: Align Bills With Your Paycheck

Here’s a small tweak that makes a big difference:

Pay your bills after your paycheck hits—not right on the due date.

For example:

• Get paid Friday

• Bills go out Monday

Now you know the money is there.

No guessing. No stress.

Step 4: Plan Your Bills Around Pay Periods

Not all bills hit evenly—and that’s where people get tripped up.

If your rent is due on the 1st and takes a huge chunk?

Balance it by scheduling smaller bills in your next pay period.

This creates breathing room in your budget instead of squeezing everything into one paycheck.

Bonus Tip: Create a Separate “Bills Email”

This one’s simple—but powerful.

Set up an email just for:

• Bills

• Statements

• Payment confirmations

Now when you sit down for your weekly money check-in, everything is in one place.

No digging. No missing things buried in your inbox.

Your Weekly System (So You Stay on Track)

Automation does most of the work—but you still need a quick check-in.

This is where your weekly money date comes in.

Once a week:

• Check that autopay went through

• Look for new or variable bills

• Adjust anything needed

That’s it.

You’re not managing money 24/7—you’re maintaining a system.

Why This System Works

Because it removes the biggest problem:

You don’t have to remember.

Instead of relying on motivation, discipline, or memory…

You’re relying on structure.

And structure creates consistency.

Which means:

• Fewer late fees

• Less stress

• More confidence

Your Next Step: Set Up One Autopay

Don’t overhaul everything today.

Just start with one bill.

Pick something important—like rent, mortgage, or a utility.

Set up autopay through your bank.

Done.

That one step puts your system in motion.

FAQs About Forgetting to Pay Bills

Why do I keep forgetting to pay bills?

Because you’re relying on memory instead of a system. Life is busy, and your brain has limits.

Is autopay safe to use?

Yes—especially when set up through your bank, where you have more control and visibility.

What if my bills change every month?

That’s normal. Use a weekly check-in to adjust amounts as needed.

How do I organize all my bills?

Use your bank’s bill pay and consider a separate email for bill-related communication.

Does this work for ADHD?

Yes—because it reduces decision-making and removes the need to rely on memory.

Other Episodes You Might Enjoy

• How to Create a Simple Family Budget That Works

• The Weekly Money Date That Keeps You Consistent

If you want a step-by-step system that organizes your bills, budget, and spending so you don’t have to think about it constantly…

Join my membership where I walk you through setting this up in a way that actually works for your life.

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Formatted Transcript

Episode: How to Stop Forgetting to Pay Bills

Jewlz The Budget Nerd (00:00)
Hello and welcome to today’s episode. I just want to say a special shout out and welcome to Jade and Sherry for jumping on my website and downloading the free resource I have available. You can find those at debtrebelpodcast.com. If you're interested in learning a little bit more, taking your next step

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Today we're going to talk about forgotten bills, why we forget bills. If you're the kind of person that says, how do I stop forgetting to pay my bills?

So missing a bill does not mean you're irresponsible. It means that the system that you have set up currently isn't working for you, so it's broken. So let's talk about how we can fix it because it's not that we are the type of people that say, hey, I don't really want to pay my bills, so I'm just going to forget about it. No, just, life happens. It slips our minds. There's so many other things on our minds.

And if you're like myself and you struggle with ADHD, relying on our memory is not a great system right then especially when it comes to our finances and so I think this is one of the reasons why if you struggle with some of those some of the symptoms of ADHD like executive dysfunction and time blindness that this is where getting our bills put in on time can really feel like pushing a rock uphill.

So one of the things that I have found is reminders alone aren't the solution. I do have those set up on my phone to make sure that those have gone through, that certain bills have gotten paid. So I rely on automation a lot. And now I want to make sure that you hear me say that relying on automation is not a crutch. This is a support tool that you can use for your brain. It's part of the system. It helps make sure that your bills get paid on time.

We can think that you know maybe a week has gone by but actually it's been three weeks maybe it's been a month or do you have those really annoying bills I think they're super annoying because they only get paid every three months or every other month.

So usually those are kind of like the utility bills, right? So we really want to make sure that we keep our water on and our power on for our families, right? So those types of things making sure that the bills that are really important I like to say automate the important things that are very important to like the survival mode budget is Making sure those things are on autopay now That's something that I do and it has been very helpful for me and I just make sure that you know, we have them spaced out you can talk to your billers to find out if a due date can be changed.

One thing that I started doing was paying them before the due date. And I know this sounds a little, this can sound a little bit crazy, but stick with me because this has been really helpful for us to stay ahead. So I will set up my auto pay. Now, one thing that I highly recommend is to use your bank's auto pay and not the provider. your, you're paying the bill to is not using their auto pay system because then that's more things you have to keep track of.

If you can log into your bank's bill pay, most of them are free now, and you can pay your bills right then and there. You can see when the dates come out. You can look at your calendar and know when your pay periods are so that you know how much money is coming in so that money will be there. And then I set those to, you know, that the next the next day.

So if you get paid every other Friday, then that following Monday, I have that autopay set up to go out. And so I know during that pay period which bills are going to be going out and those are taken care of. So then I just use some reminders to double check and make sure, okay, those things have gone through, everything is set up.

Today's challenge is to just set up AutoPay for one of your bills. Now, this is part of the overall system that I teach

If paying your bills on time and missing those is a challenge for you, then I highly recommend setting up autopay. Now, you might get your bill in the mail or if you get it by email, which I highly recommend. This is a bonus tip. I've mentioned this a few times on the show before, but having an email that is separate, that it's separate from your personal, separate from your work email.

So I know it's one more thing, but the nice part about that is bills don't get lost and shuffled into your personal email, but also it helps with knowing, okay, this is my time that I have set aside to work on my finances. So it's your weekly money date that you set with yourself and you can go into that email, see what needs to be paid, make sure the auto pays like we're talking about today, those auto pays have gone through or if any new bills are coming up. The nice part about that too is if you need to adjust some, cause some bills are not

the same amount every single month correct? So this helps you get ahead of it. You can adjust that auto pay and it simplifies the system. It takes a minute to set up but today's challenge is to just set up one auto pay for one of your bills. One that I highly recommend is your mortgage or your rent to make sure that that is taken care of and you're never behind in that one because you want to make sure you keep a roof over your head. So that's a great place to start or one

One of the other bills that goes into maintaining your household, so things like utilities. Those are another place ⁓ if you need some ideas on where to start with that auto pay. Having that set up is going to help you set up the rest of this system moving forward. That's what we do inside the membership. I walk you through how to set up a simple bill pay system so that you don't have to worry about if your bills got paid. You know they're going to be paid.

It's a bigger piece of mind for yourself, but also it's going to help you stay on track because late fees are the thing that will slowly drain your budget and you're not going to get you. There's zero benefit from it. So that's one thing that will. That's a huge, a huge benefit from auto pays is setting that up so that it is taken care of. So I know some people have some reservation and some anxiety about auto pay.

That's why I highly encourage you to do it, through your bank's bill pay or auto pay because that's one login. You can control it and you can stop it faster if for whatever reason things get off track than having to log into each place that you pay bills to and have to figure out, okay, wait, when does this one hit? When does this one hit? When does that one hit? If you use that EveryDollar app like I use, it will help you also predict based on your pay periods when the best time to pay those bills is.

So for example,get paid on the first but you pay your mortgage or your rent on the first then That's going to be a bigger chunk out of that pay period So maybe you pay some of your smaller bills for your next pay period and so you can set that up. And having a calendar printed out to look and see when those do those are due is going to help you also But you can use the every dollar app.

There's a paycheck planning section in there. That's really helpful to see whether or not when you can if you need to change your due dates that will help you set that up so that your system is seamless and flawless and it's one less thing to think about but it also takes care of itself in the background so you can focus on other things so I hope that today's episode was helpful for you.

It is a way to help get started in setting up your full financial system that's going to work in the background and then you Ican do these little spot checks and maintenance stuff throughout the month so you're not spending all of your time managing your money. alright, we'll talk with you in the next episode.